Author: Kimberly Kingsley

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Personal Energy Independence

I was invited back on Louie Free’s Radio Show today – Brain food from the heartland. Louie is a big-hearted radio host on the East Coast who likes to educate his listeners. Proclaiming himself “crude” at times, Louie tells it like it is. I think he’s awesome, and he has a lot of listeners who feel the same way. The show will be available on his archives tomorrow at free.vindy.com.

Here’s a piece I wrote for his blog:

With The Fourth of July quickly approaching, Louie Free and I engaged in a lively discussion about energy independence – personal energy independence that is. He asked that I share a couple of thoughts on the subject.

What I’ve found is that modern society, for all its comforts and advancements, has produced a profound sense of restlessness in most of us. We’ve lost touch with the abundant vital energy contained within, and have turned to compulsive activity and consumption to ease our emptiness.

The good news is that we are built to be full of life – even bright – and the only thing standing between us and personal energy independence is a mindset and a hand full of tools. I’m looking forward to continuing this conversation with Louie on Tuesday, but for now, remember that your vitality is a gift you bring wherever you go.

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Love, Love, Love

I don’t know about you, but when I’m in the midst of a big transition it can be difficult to just relax. So when I found myself up North over the weekend with my daughter, siblings and seven nephews, getting into “sit around and chill” mode was a bit challenging.

The first night was the toughest… I found myself in bed wondering if I would make it for all three nights. I know it sounds strange – vacations are suppose to be fun and carefree, and usually they are for me, but this time I just felt like I needed to be home taking care of business.

What ultimately helped me relax and enjoy the beautiful company and surroundings was repeating the word “Love” in my mind.

This mantra – love, love, love – caused my heart to open. I actually felt it relax and expand. I also felt energy moving in my body, which is always a good thing. It’s a surprising anti-anxiety remedy that I wanted to share.

As you all know, I’m a firm believer in affirmations, but this one might be the most powerful of all. It even got me through ripping out the seat of my pants while climbing a rock:)

Bless,
Kim

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Babyboomers Rock!

I’m sitting at my desk on this lovely Saturday morning working on my latest writing project with the window open. All of a sudden I hear loud music, “Let the sideshow begin – hurry, hurry – step right on in – Can’t afford to pass it by, guaranteed to make you cry…” Do you remember that song?

Well, I can’t wait to get a glimpse of the person blaring one my favorite oldies. Then I see her. A woman in her fifties in a bright yellow convertible Chevy SS with the top town. She has a tie dyed shirt on. Other than the music, car and clothes, she looks strikingly average… If you put her in a different outfit, you might mistake her for your best friend’s mom.

This confirms a conversation I had with a friend yesterday. I told him that baby boomers are going to make getting older easier for the rest of us. That they had already paved the way with the women’s movement, gave us a road map for what to do and not to do when faced with an unending war, and inspired a new flock of hippy, peace seeking, live and let live youngsters -just look around and you’ll see peace signs and environmental slogans everywhere.

If anyone reading this is a baby boomer, I would like to say thank you. You break down barriers, set trends, and spread coolness wherever you go. Getting older has never been so hip.
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Voice of Life

Spirituality and healing have been at the center of my life for nearly 17 years. It’s always involved my learning first and then teaching what I’ve learned – this, I suspect, will never change.

For the first 15 years I focused on finding inner peace and helping others to do the same. It came as a bit of a shock to me two years ago when I realized how connected our inner peace is to world peace. Of course, it makes sense – but the literal implications are startling. This new layer is what I’ve been teaching for a while, and what I’m currently writing about.

Here’s something else rather staggering. Every speaker I heard at World Wellness Weekend made the connection between individual healing and healing of the world. It is so awesome to know that the voice of life is whispering the same thing to those who are listening.

We are so connected. To each other and to the universal spirit that animates our very existence. This comforts me. I love that we’re all moving in the same direction and that anyone who wishes to know life’s agenda can just tune into that frequency and get a clear message.

What messages are you receiving?
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What a blast!

I just returned from speaking at World Wellness Weekend in Austin – what a blast! Not only did I get to spend two days with people who deeply care about the environment, and evolving into their best selves, I was privileged to listen to some amazing live music and awesome speakers.

Austin – although already feeling rather humid – is such a cool city. The people are among the friendliest I’ve ever met, and the vibe there is “chill” as the young would say;)

I have to say, my favorite part (other than the pure joy and adventure of spending two and a half days with my sister-in-law Amy, who attended with me – thanks girl!) was sharing the message of embodied spirituality. It was great to see the light go on for those who discovered the specific ways they avoid their own transformation – and how these compulsive avoidance strategies are just the ego’s way of attempting to keep it from being transmuted by the fire of spiritual energy.

This road to transparency and radiance can get a little rocky, but when we understand the bigger picture – that we are meant to share our inner light rather than project it onto other things and people and chase after it – the rocks become more like pebbles and we keep going until they turn to sand, and we to diamonds.

I wish you were all there:)

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Eating for Energy

I could not be more thrilled with my dinner tonight: Grilled yellow pepper, fingerling potatoes, and broccoli, drizzled with olive oil, and sprinkled with salt, pepper and feta cheese. Oh yeah, and a huge handful of organic baby romaine lettuce topped with lemon juice.

You’d think I was on a diet, but it turns out that no matter how much I eat, or don’t eat, I’m slightly roundish. What I am doing a better job at is eating for energy. I’ve noticed that fresh, whole foods give me the buoyant energy I crave, and that mac and cheese (even if it is purchased from Trader Joe’s) doesn’t.

What has become overwhelmingly obvious to me is that foods that contain stuff our bodies don’t need require more processing, and therefore don’t yield as much energy. Clean foods – the one’s packed with vitamins, minerals, fiber, and most of all, life energy – are what my body craves these days.
I’m by no means perfect in the pursuit of energy-filled foods, but am finding that I’m naturally drawn to them, and feel really good about that.

Just some thoughts from a well-fed, and supremely balanced energy coach…
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No Strings Attached

We’ve all had our share of relationship drama. Whether it’s your mother or your lover, being tangled up with others is no fun. If we could see two people relating dysfunctionally, there would be energetic strings extending from each of them trying to capture power, energy and attention.

Loving others with no strings attached is a very high calling, but leads to inner peace and health. The presence of power struggles or ongoing conflicts indicates that you are entangled.

The way to free yourself is to stop playing your part in the familiar dynamic. Perhaps you feel the need to “teach” the person what’s right, or maybe you run from them as they pursue you. Maybe you resist, or overstate your position, or try to console all the time. It will feel very foreign to disengage – you will feel like you’re are losing the relationship. The truth is you are only losing the strings that strangle the life out of you.

When you refuse to play, the game ends. The strings unravel and you can love the person for who they are. Sometimes the relationship dissolves – in which case, you are making room for more fulfilling connections. Other times, your actions elevate the relationship into health. In my years of counseling and coaching I’ve seen both, and have 100% faith that life releases what is not real and transforms the rest.

Untangling involves honoring yourself and your needs, expressing your preferences, and then letting others make their own choices. When we do this, we rise up the mountain quickly and enjoy time with others who are on the same path.

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World Wellness Weekend

Two weeks from today I’m going to Austin to speak at World Wellness Weekend about embodied spirituality. It is such a perfect subject for the event. WWW brings together earthy music and inspiring spirituality. The integration of spirit and matter, masculine and feminine, heaven and earth is what embodied spirituality is all about.

Embodied spirituality is the next era of human evolution. We are coming out of a time of projected spirituality – where our light is buried, projected outward and then chased. Embodying your spirit means connecting with your inner light at its source. As your spirit fills you up, it naturally pours into the world. We no longer need to chase it, as are completely fulfilled.
I’m excited to share this message with the attendees of WWW, as embodying our own essence is the only thing that satisfies our ravenous appetites. All the food, alcohol, sex, power and money in the world won’t give us what we are craving, but the highly refined and nourishing energy of spirit will fill us up and light up the world.
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Byproducts of Energy

Joy. Inspiration. Fulfillment. Clarity. Freedom. Calm. Patience. Love. Enthusiasm. Peace.

There are as many energy byproducts as there are tulips in this picture, each one being a different facet of the fuel that nourishes us.

You may notice that when you’re depleted, the uplifting feelings you crave are no where to be found. They are replaced by irritability, impatience and discouragement.

Last week I was in Baltimore doing a training. I flew out Thursday, did the training Friday morning and flew home Friday afternoon – between the airport and the flights, I spent 14 out of 36 hours in transit… The week before I was in New York walking my behind off to see as much of the city as possible in my short time there. Needless to say, two East coast trips in a row pretty much drained the life out of me.

When I returned unable to tap into the stream of inspiration that normally flows through me, I knew immediately that it was low energy. So rather than spend any time wondering what was wrong in my life for me to be “off,” I went about the business of doing nothing. All week – other than do minimal work and take care of my daughter – I took naps, went to bed early and read more than usual. .

I’m back to my regular self now, inspired and ready to go. Had I not remembered that a low mood is most often low energy, I may not have done what I needed to do to recover so quickly.

We can’t pursue the gifts of energy directly, but we can pursue energy directly. So the next time you’ve lost your optimism and lust for life, check-in with yourself – perhaps you just need to lay low for a day or two and replenesh your life force.

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That was so easy!

After I gave birth to my daughter – following hours of torture and throwing up from the pain – one of the first things I said was, “That was so easy!” It was completely genuine, as I had already forgotten how hard it was.

The interesting thing about it is that every time my daughter completes something she’s really nervous about, she says the exact same thing: “That was so easy!” I’m pretty sure she doesn’t remember me saying it the day she was born, but nevertheless, it seems to be a mantra of my tiny clan.

I’m starting to feel the same way about spiritual living. After years of struggling to learn these principles and really integrate them into my behaviors, it is now feeling “so easy.”

I don’t know why we all have to go through a period of preparation prior to bliss, but we do. We have to learn to surrender what our small minds think is right in order to support life’s consistent flow.

We need to be willing to let go of life-constricting patterns so that we remain expansive inside, regardless of the circumstances on the outside.

We need to allow our belief constellations to enter our awareness and be dismantled if they don’t support our highest good.

And finally, we need to love ourselves impeccably – no matter what – in order to open up inside so that our essence can extend through us and love others – no matter what.

I haven’t reached the teenage years with my daughter as of yet… I was, shall we say, a handful? I have a little apprehension about the karma that might be coming my way. But I’m hoping that on the other side of that precarious stage, that my daughter and I both say, “That was so easy!”