Author: Kimberly Kingsley

Fourteen years ago I stumbled upon my life’s work. It was to help people be more spirit-filled by teaching them how to clear out anything blocking their radiance.

Over the years I have hidden behind a number of titles – I posed as a life-skills trainer, teaching practical classes riddled with disguised mysticism. Then I became a therapist – sneaking in spiritual principles to any clients open to them.

I have always been careful about how I expressed my beliefs as not to offend anyone – I’m over that. The title that best describes my work is energy coach. In my work as an energy coach, I teach people to connect with their core, clear out internal blocks, abandon addictive consumption in favor of passionate expression, and clean up relationships and other external systems that are “draining.”

As I write this entry, I glance up at my bulletin board to a note that says, “You have clicked into your archetypal uniqueness as an “Energy Coach” – mitigate it not, for it will propel you forward exponentially.” – A message from my spiritual guides dated 6-3-05, one year ago today.

I AM AN ENERGY COACH!

This morning in meditation I had an awareness of what attachment looks like energetically.

When we express ourselves passionately life energy flows from us, magnetically attracting whatever we need or desire. This supports ongoing expression, which is our purpose.

Attachment to a certain form or outcome slows the flow of energy and constricts it into the form or thought template of the attachment.

Remaining focused on expressing our passions without getting stuck on what we will get or how it will look is an act of surrender – a leap of faith – yet another layer of control released….

What are your thoughts on how to move toward world peace?

As synchronicity would have it, the question of how to achieve world peace came up multiple times from completely different sources this week.

Each time, I shared my belief that a grassroots movement focused on healing the split within our individual psyches is necessary for real change to occur.

As the days go by, pieces of the puzzle keep coming together in my mind about this movement – as does a feeling of urgency.

The vast majority of us are walking around with a split in our psyche: an inner battle, if you will. THIS is what is being played out in the world around us.

Individual inner peace is step one toward world peace. Each day my personal mission of bringing more light into the world one person at a time becomes more meaningful.

I found this beautiful little yellow book called, The Velveteen Principles: A Guide to Becoming Real. It is based on the children’s story the Velveteen Rabbit in which a child’s stuffed rabbit becomes real once it’s loved enough.

She contrasts being real with objectification – where we aspire to be perfect shiny objects so we will have value. The only problem is that there is no value in this because one’s soul is always abandoned in pursuit of perfection.

This book tickles me… It is along the same lines as the “essentialization” definition I received in my sleep a couple weeks ago – shed layers of socialization and be yourself!

My spiritual development group ended last night after twelve weeks. We finished with a ritual that involved each person telling one member at a time about their strength and beauty – a bombardment of love. It was both sacred and overwhelming.

Receiving is often harder than giving. I’m still integrating the experience and smile frequently as I think of different things that were said.

The group was amazing. Each of us opened up more to ourselves – to life – and subsequently to others and the world. Last night before I fell asleep I pictured each of them as a bright colored balloon that I was releasing into the sky as a bouquet.

The “earth angel” was pink with a silver ribbon, the “bad ass” was red with a blue ribbon, the “sunflower” was a yellow balloon with an orange ribbon, the “calm, yet brilliant” one of us was a blue balloon with an earth colored ribbon. The “Teacher” was a purple balloon with a blue ribbon, the “compassionate transformer” was a dark blue balloon with a red ribbon.

We are all unique. We are all beautiful. We are all here to love ourselves and others and to bring more light into this world. I will miss this group immensely.

Friday night I saw Maya Angelou speak. She was brief – she spoke for about an hour, but I don’t think there was a person there who felt short changed or that she could have said more.

Her presence said it all – powerful, grounded, wise. She shared this African Quote: “Beware of a naked man who offers you the shirt off his back.” It reminded me that we need to love and nourish ourselves in order to truly give to others.

There are so many ways to fill ourselves up on any given day. Simply being present is nourishing – fully enjoying a beverage or the sunset will do. Being kind to ourselves in the privacy of our own minds is good too.

Perhaps just taking a moment to read this entry was nourishing – now go enjoy a beverage!

The other night in my sleep a dictionary definition appeared. It looked something like this: “The process of embodying one’s essence – Essentialization.”

Essentialization is the opposite of socialization. It involves shedding the many layers wrapped around us that dull our presence and keep us from feeling the euphoric energy of life.

Shedding is a form of alchemy. Spiritual energy is the main ingredient necessary for this process to unfold. We bring this energy into our bodies through a daily practice of connecting within and mindful breathing throughout the day. The energy propels you into a state of inner transformation, which burns off these layers to the point that they can be released.

This is an entire book – but I thought I’d share the essence:)

Has someone ever said something to you that felt like a sharp, penetrating prick? We all have aspects of ourselves that are pushed underground – shadows. Some are the negative pieces that we would rather not look at, and frankly are in total denial that they even exist, like the obnoxious self, or the overindulgent self, ugly self, etc. Just as many are the beautiful parts of ourselves that we’ve forgotten about – strong, talented, attractive.

You can tell when someone has stepped on your shadow because you either feel strongly offended (if it’s a negative piece) or inspired and envious (for the positive.)

Enlightenment begins with healing – integrating these detached pieces of our whole being back into awareness. You know this:) Looking at it stinks. Integrating it is downright uncomfortable.

But hear this – any negative piece has a positive flip side, so to make it less painful and more fun and challenging, simply focus on integrating the positive and the rest will come naturally.

Each piece of yourself that you integrate makes you more luminous, radiant and light-filled. Soon, I’ll have to wear sunglasses in your presence!

My brother-in-law Kevin sent me a gift song from iTunes called “Where is the Love” by the Black Eyed Peas with a note, “I thought you’d like this – Love, Kevin.”

It took a few moments to download – once it was ready I clicked on it. Immediately I started to dance because it has a great, soulful beat. After a few moments of elated grooving the tears started to flow.

The song opened me up to some feelings that hadn’t been processed. I find that whenever I have sadness about something it surfaces in the most unusual ways – a song, a yoga posture… An open heart means flowing feelings – good and bad, happy and sad.

Thank you Kevin – when I look around I find that the love isn’t very far away.