Author: Kimberly Kingsley

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The Oppostite of Denial

I’ve been reading Blink by Malcolm Gladwell. His sub-title is “The Power of Thinking without Thinking.”

Gladwell tells of an experiment where participants were asked to pick from a red and blue deck of cards, with each card winning or losing money. What the participants didn’t know is that the red cards were designed to make them lose instead of win. After picking 50 cards, they started to figure it out, and could pretty much explain what was happening after 80 cards.

The interesting part is that the researchers hooked up monitors to test the stress response in the palms of the hands of the participants. What they found is that after only 10 cards, the stress response was activated when someone picked a card from the red deck. Participants also began unconsciously favoring the blue decks.

This is intuition. Our bodies know things before we do. Sometimes it takes a long time for the unconscious/intuitive knowledge to creep into our awareness, and when it’s something we don’t want to hear, it takes even longer.

Paying attention to the subtle clues in your body and gut is a good start, but acting on this information prior to it being totally integrated into your conscious awareness is the tough part. Maybe we don’t need to act on it before feeling total conviction, but simply make a commitment to pay attention regardless of whether or not we like the information that’s rising to the surface.

According to A Course in Miracles, repeating the affirmation, “I am determined to see” will help us learn to listen and trust this incredible guidance system.
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Heart and Head Connection

“Your internal condition, always and forevermore, is most important of all, for a peaceful and faithful heart creates a more peaceful and graceful life, and therefore a more peaceful and grace-filled world.”

This quote comes from my friend Ann Alber’s newsletter. I really loved it when I read it and wanted to share it with you. Check out Ann’s newsletter to read the whole thing: http://www.visionsofheaven.com/AAngels/newsletter_2010_1030.html

She goes on to say, “When your heart is not at war with your head, you create a vibration of peace in your world.”

The idea of your heart and head being in sync is so powerful. We tend to think of them as separate, but experiencing heart/head alignment is the most peaceful feeling we can imagine, plus it raises the strength of the vibe we send into the world a hundred fold.

I just got done with my first fasting retreat. Everyone who participated commented on how clear their head was the day after the fast. This is heart/head alignment. A couple of them also shared feeling super patient with their children – something that happens when our heads are not rushing to the next thing, but rather resting in the present moment firmly anchored in the heart.

To quickly establish heart/head alignment, have a conversation with your heart. Connect with your breath and simply ask your heart questions. It will answer! After, you will feel peaceful and a sense of gratitude emanating from your heart. It’s as if it’s thanking you for listening.

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Blog, Shmog


I can’t help feeling that this blog, which is so near and dear to my heart, is becoming a bit of a dinosaur in the age of Facebook and Twitter. Don’t get me wrong, I still love it and cherish it as a way to stay connected, as well as a place to write my inspirations, but the energy feels different.

Feeling energy is a great way to ride the wave of life instead of swimming upstream. We can feel energy in everything, and notice where it ebbs and flows. Some examples: I just started teaching the Spring semester at SCC and can already feel which students have energy between them. This is so fun to do! I feel it right away and watch their friendships (or more:) blossom as the semester unfolds.

I do this with fashion as well. As much as I love peace images on clothes, I can’t help but feel that this trend approaching saturation. The energy will move more toward other symbols that capture the essence of the moment.

Two emerging symbols: Dandelions and angel wings. I can feel their energy and know that they are taking hold in the collective consciousness.

That being said, I will stay true to my beloved blog and all of you who visit in between FB posts;)

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Raining Leaves

The other day when I was walking Mucci, the most beautiful thing happened.. A tree released about 100 leaves just as we walked underneath it! Orange and yellow leaves fell on our heads as the tree swayed back and forth in the wind.

I felt so honored to witness this magical moment. Only in Arizona would a tree perform such a beautiful display of fall in the middle of winter!

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2010

The holidays have once again come and gone and I must say I’m ready for the new year to start. Not only because the energy of 2010 is bursting with positive vibes, but because the holidays took a lot out of me this year in terms of time and energy. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing more magical than the excitement of a child (anna:) on Christmas morning.

I’m hearing and feeling that 2010 is going to be very positive for those of us who are committed to walking in our own truths. In order to ride the wave, we need to be true to ourselves and take action where we are getting guidance to do so.

One thing I will be doing this year is offering Fasting Retreats – one day lemonade fasts at a Scottsdale resort, along with a workshop to facilitate renewal. The first one is on Friday 1/29, and the cost is 249.00, which includes a private room and the workshop.

I also plan to move more into professional speaking. I have come to really love speaking to groups about some of the principles that have transformed my own life.

Finally, keep your eyes out for a fresh, new website at some point this year. I’m excited! Thank you for continuing to visit my blog, which is now in it’s fifth year. Can you believe that?

Happy New Year and Lots of Love to You!!
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The Path to Peace

If you visit this blog regularly, you probably rely on your intuition to help you navigate through life. Whenever you have a problem, you most likely look inside yourself for the answer. If you’re like me, sometimes the answer pops up instantly, and other times you remain “in the dark” until you receive clarity.

Here’s something to remember: The solution never exists at the same level as the problem. For example, if you are worried about something and search your mind for relief, you will only get more of the same. Therefore, it is most effective to move to a different level of self in order to perceive the solution.

Enter yoga, showers, and dreams. Almost every time I have a challenge within myself, I get clarity “on the mat.” About an hour into a yoga class, my spiritual self reveals a truth that shines a light on my petty problem and puts it into perspective. I’ve heard many people say that the shower is what does it for them. Perhaps the water allows your energy to expand and communicate guidance more clearly. Dreams are powerful vehicles for truth as well, as our defenses are down and we can hear and feel what our psyche would have us know.

So next time you’re in turmoil about one of life’s many challenges, step out of your mind for a bit and allow your higher self to take the wheel. It may take a day, or it may take a week, but a solution will emerge and return you to a place of peace.
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Christ’s Light

Today is the Winter Solstice -the shortest day of the year. Three days from midnight tonight we celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ and the renewed light in all of us.

It’s interesting that the light emerges three days after the darkest day of the year. It is typical to have a funeral three days after someone dies, and of course there are three days between the crucifixion and resurrection of Jesus. According to Doreen Virtue, the number three symbolizes the presence of ascended masters such as Jesus and Buddha.

I believe that we are rebirthed many times throughout our lives. What if, when we’ve been lost in our own wilderness of drama, addiction and trauma, it takes three days for our light to once again emerge along with our inner peace?

I’ve always been aware of the delay between right action and feeling good, but now I’m wondering if there is some metaphysical rhyme or reason to the number three.

Regardless, if anyone reading this is currently making choices that “miss the mark” (literal translation for sin), now is your time to return to Right Action, for in three days – on Christmas morning – your light will be once again shining bright.
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Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!

With the holidays upon us, I want to wish you a Merry Christmas and Happy Holiday season from Anna and I. My grown up Christmas wish (stolen from my fav xmas song) is that we choose peace in every moment and let the stress rest!
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Anxiety versus Sensitivity

So many of us struggle with anxiety. We may even develop anxiety disorders such as OCD or chronic panic attacks. Anxiety in general seems to be on the rise and I have to say that I’m not surprised.

We move so fast, take little or no time for reflection, over-consume and constantly distract ourselves with technology, electronic devices and toys that are inherently ungrounding.

Anxiety is the spiritual, emotional and physical energy that is trying to flow into the world but instead swims in circles within the body. Sensitive people – those of us who are highly intuitive, artistic or just plain aware – need to be even more vigilant about buffering our lives against anxiety.

Transforming anxiety into passionate expression is possible if we do the following:
  • Get Grounded – Ground your spiritual energy daily through connecting rituals such as meditation, journaling and walking or running without music.

  • Create Safety – Surround yourself with people who honor you, your quirks, your feelings and your passions. Distance yourself from anyone who is unsupportive, as people who respond with silence or criticism cause us to retreat, pulling our energy back inside the body where it again swims and turns to anxiety.

  • Express Your Feelings – Emotional energy is spiritual energy with extra velocity. Left unexpressed, it festers and eats us alive.

  • Feed Your Passions – Choosing a life of security over expressing our God given talents is a recipe for chronic anxiety. We are built to express our unique brand of brilliance into the world. Find a way to do this today.

I used to have anxiety and didn’t even know what it was. I felt fearful and was overly cautious. While I utilize all of the above techniques, creating safety in my life has been the single most important thing I have done to transform my anxiety… We all deserve nothing less.

God Bless.

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Just Breathe and Wait

Last night I watched a movie about survival. I’m not going to say which one in case some of you haven’t seen it yet. Suffice to say that the conditions were horrific and there was very little hope of rescue.

As fate would have it, the tide brought in an object that made it possible for him to get rescued. After the ordeal was over, he returned to find that everything that kept him alive was gone, only to experience devastation all over again.

While sharing how he survived with an old friend, he said that even though there was no sign of possible rescue, somehow he knew that his only job was to take one breath after another. He applied the same philosophy to his present situation of returning home to find more loss, saying “All I can do is take one breath after another and see what the tide brings in.”

This story describes me right now. I have not survived a tragedy and I am blessed beyond all measure, yet I find myself once again surrendering to the “will of the wind” as I take one breath at a time and wait to see what the tide might bring.