Author: Kimberly Kingsley

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Fountain of Love

Yesterday I became inspired to stroll through a nearby neighborhood to check out the houses. As I walked down the first street, I noticed a couple of young guys hanging around a car in a driveway. A few minutes later I heard one of the boys yell inside his house, “We’re leaving, I Love you!” I smiled and thought how nice it was that a teenager would be so overtly loving to his family, while my humorous self fantasized about turning around, waving, and yelling, “I love you too!” They would have been mortified:)

I continued to walk and came across a BEAUTIFUL, white house with flowing water fountain sounds coming from the enclosed courtyard. Intense red wildflowers covered dark brown, little stones (think Greece). I was completely inspired by the beauty and divine order emanating from this home.

A few houses down I walked by another teen-age boy. He was super cute and edgy, and was talking on his cell phone. I wondered if he was a challenge for his mom. Just as I passed his driveway I heard him yell, “I’m leaving mom, I love you.” Can you believe that? Two boys at the prime age of coolness yelling “I love you” to their mothers where the whole neighborhood can hear.

I thought to myself, teenage boys sure are nice these days. A while later a thought popped into my head that maybe my energy inspired these boys the way the house inspired me… I’m not always a fountain of love, but yesterday I did feel very open and loving.

It doesn’t really matter what made these boys express their love so openly. What does matter is that at the level of energy, we are like soup. Your vibes rub off on whoever you come near and vice versa. Every person, place and thing gives off a unique vibe that enters your energy field whether you’re aware of it or not.

It reminds me of my favorite Emerson quote, “Who you are is shouting so loudly that I can hardly hear what you say.”
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Me and Mucci

My daughter has been out of town all week and it’s been just me and Mucci, my four legged companion who’s too chill for words.

It’s been an interesting time of reflection and peace. As synchronicity would have it, a friend sent me a CD called The Science of Getting Rich – thanks Sundar! My initial response to the title was along the lines of, “I’m about more than money..” But being in this place of openness and growth, I gave it a listen.

I’m here to tell you that it is the only message I’ve heard on wealth that has made deep down sense to me. Below are some nuggets the author (Wallace Wattles) shares:

  • The desire for wealth is a desire for growth and expansion which is the nature of life.
  • Getting rich on the competitive plane hurts everyone.
  • When we rise up to the creative plane of thought, getting rich adds more life to everyone.
  • There is an infinite amount of intelligent, formless substance therefore we can all be rich.
  • The only way to lift the world out of poverty is by demonstrating creative wealth.
  • Holding on to “The Truth” despite appearances allows the creative mind to work for you.

In this model it is supremely important not to dip into competitive thinking, which is common sense, but I’m afraid most of us do it all the time. Take the example of looking for the perfect car or house, finding it, and then being afraid that it won’t be there when you’re ready… This is competitive thinking. At the level of creation, the perfect thing will present itself at the perfect time.

I hope you all have a wonderful weekend! I for one am excited for my bundle of joy to return home to momma!

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The Process is the Outcome

I often refer to the first time I heard my spiritual voice as the period in my mid-twenties when I was trying to decide if I should move to Chicago, and my inner voice said, “You need to go work on yourself so that you can love others more…” I wrote about the experience in Opening to Life and share it often because it was one of the most profound and clear messages I’ve received.

A year or two before that however, was the real first time I heard my inner voice. It was quite subtle, but it had a lasting effect on me. It was around the same time – in my twenties – when I had been struggling with a long-standing issue with food and body image. I don’t know that I had a full blown eating disorder, but it robbed my inner peace everyday, so I’m thinking that would qualify.. I basically obsessed over what and how much I ate all the time. I would restrict severely and then overeat – total nonsense.

One day while on a walk ruminating over what I had eaten, a voice inside me said, “The process is the outcome.” It repeated itself over and over, which is a tell tale sign that spirit is talking. The bigger picture that came with the words was that the choices made in each moment are more important than any future outcome.

I really got that message. It was the beginning of my healing with food, and to this day I make good decisions about what I eat because I’m aware that my well being is rooted in this moment only – whatever sprouts in the future is simply an extension of right now.

I’m being reminded of this lesson during this time of transition. When I tune into my highest self and do what it guides me to do in any given moment I experience peace. However, when I forget to focus on NOW, I fall into a sort of funk that I later have to climb out of through Right Action again.
Right Action in the moment in every area of life. Now that’s freedom. The outcome is out of our hands, but in reality the process is the outcome.
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Personal Energy Independence

I was invited back on Louie Free’s Radio Show today – Brain food from the heartland. Louie is a big-hearted radio host on the East Coast who likes to educate his listeners. Proclaiming himself “crude” at times, Louie tells it like it is. I think he’s awesome, and he has a lot of listeners who feel the same way. The show will be available on his archives tomorrow at free.vindy.com.

Here’s a piece I wrote for his blog:

With The Fourth of July quickly approaching, Louie Free and I engaged in a lively discussion about energy independence – personal energy independence that is. He asked that I share a couple of thoughts on the subject.

What I’ve found is that modern society, for all its comforts and advancements, has produced a profound sense of restlessness in most of us. We’ve lost touch with the abundant vital energy contained within, and have turned to compulsive activity and consumption to ease our emptiness.

The good news is that we are built to be full of life – even bright – and the only thing standing between us and personal energy independence is a mindset and a hand full of tools. I’m looking forward to continuing this conversation with Louie on Tuesday, but for now, remember that your vitality is a gift you bring wherever you go.

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Love, Love, Love

I don’t know about you, but when I’m in the midst of a big transition it can be difficult to just relax. So when I found myself up North over the weekend with my daughter, siblings and seven nephews, getting into “sit around and chill” mode was a bit challenging.

The first night was the toughest… I found myself in bed wondering if I would make it for all three nights. I know it sounds strange – vacations are suppose to be fun and carefree, and usually they are for me, but this time I just felt like I needed to be home taking care of business.

What ultimately helped me relax and enjoy the beautiful company and surroundings was repeating the word “Love” in my mind.

This mantra – love, love, love – caused my heart to open. I actually felt it relax and expand. I also felt energy moving in my body, which is always a good thing. It’s a surprising anti-anxiety remedy that I wanted to share.

As you all know, I’m a firm believer in affirmations, but this one might be the most powerful of all. It even got me through ripping out the seat of my pants while climbing a rock:)

Bless,
Kim

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Babyboomers Rock!

I’m sitting at my desk on this lovely Saturday morning working on my latest writing project with the window open. All of a sudden I hear loud music, “Let the sideshow begin – hurry, hurry – step right on in – Can’t afford to pass it by, guaranteed to make you cry…” Do you remember that song?

Well, I can’t wait to get a glimpse of the person blaring one my favorite oldies. Then I see her. A woman in her fifties in a bright yellow convertible Chevy SS with the top town. She has a tie dyed shirt on. Other than the music, car and clothes, she looks strikingly average… If you put her in a different outfit, you might mistake her for your best friend’s mom.

This confirms a conversation I had with a friend yesterday. I told him that baby boomers are going to make getting older easier for the rest of us. That they had already paved the way with the women’s movement, gave us a road map for what to do and not to do when faced with an unending war, and inspired a new flock of hippy, peace seeking, live and let live youngsters -just look around and you’ll see peace signs and environmental slogans everywhere.

If anyone reading this is a baby boomer, I would like to say thank you. You break down barriers, set trends, and spread coolness wherever you go. Getting older has never been so hip.
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Voice of Life

Spirituality and healing have been at the center of my life for nearly 17 years. It’s always involved my learning first and then teaching what I’ve learned – this, I suspect, will never change.

For the first 15 years I focused on finding inner peace and helping others to do the same. It came as a bit of a shock to me two years ago when I realized how connected our inner peace is to world peace. Of course, it makes sense – but the literal implications are startling. This new layer is what I’ve been teaching for a while, and what I’m currently writing about.

Here’s something else rather staggering. Every speaker I heard at World Wellness Weekend made the connection between individual healing and healing of the world. It is so awesome to know that the voice of life is whispering the same thing to those who are listening.

We are so connected. To each other and to the universal spirit that animates our very existence. This comforts me. I love that we’re all moving in the same direction and that anyone who wishes to know life’s agenda can just tune into that frequency and get a clear message.

What messages are you receiving?
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What a blast!

I just returned from speaking at World Wellness Weekend in Austin – what a blast! Not only did I get to spend two days with people who deeply care about the environment, and evolving into their best selves, I was privileged to listen to some amazing live music and awesome speakers.

Austin – although already feeling rather humid – is such a cool city. The people are among the friendliest I’ve ever met, and the vibe there is “chill” as the young would say;)

I have to say, my favorite part (other than the pure joy and adventure of spending two and a half days with my sister-in-law Amy, who attended with me – thanks girl!) was sharing the message of embodied spirituality. It was great to see the light go on for those who discovered the specific ways they avoid their own transformation – and how these compulsive avoidance strategies are just the ego’s way of attempting to keep it from being transmuted by the fire of spiritual energy.

This road to transparency and radiance can get a little rocky, but when we understand the bigger picture – that we are meant to share our inner light rather than project it onto other things and people and chase after it – the rocks become more like pebbles and we keep going until they turn to sand, and we to diamonds.

I wish you were all there:)

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Eating for Energy

I could not be more thrilled with my dinner tonight: Grilled yellow pepper, fingerling potatoes, and broccoli, drizzled with olive oil, and sprinkled with salt, pepper and feta cheese. Oh yeah, and a huge handful of organic baby romaine lettuce topped with lemon juice.

You’d think I was on a diet, but it turns out that no matter how much I eat, or don’t eat, I’m slightly roundish. What I am doing a better job at is eating for energy. I’ve noticed that fresh, whole foods give me the buoyant energy I crave, and that mac and cheese (even if it is purchased from Trader Joe’s) doesn’t.

What has become overwhelmingly obvious to me is that foods that contain stuff our bodies don’t need require more processing, and therefore don’t yield as much energy. Clean foods – the one’s packed with vitamins, minerals, fiber, and most of all, life energy – are what my body craves these days.
I’m by no means perfect in the pursuit of energy-filled foods, but am finding that I’m naturally drawn to them, and feel really good about that.

Just some thoughts from a well-fed, and supremely balanced energy coach…
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No Strings Attached

We’ve all had our share of relationship drama. Whether it’s your mother or your lover, being tangled up with others is no fun. If we could see two people relating dysfunctionally, there would be energetic strings extending from each of them trying to capture power, energy and attention.

Loving others with no strings attached is a very high calling, but leads to inner peace and health. The presence of power struggles or ongoing conflicts indicates that you are entangled.

The way to free yourself is to stop playing your part in the familiar dynamic. Perhaps you feel the need to “teach” the person what’s right, or maybe you run from them as they pursue you. Maybe you resist, or overstate your position, or try to console all the time. It will feel very foreign to disengage – you will feel like you’re are losing the relationship. The truth is you are only losing the strings that strangle the life out of you.

When you refuse to play, the game ends. The strings unravel and you can love the person for who they are. Sometimes the relationship dissolves – in which case, you are making room for more fulfilling connections. Other times, your actions elevate the relationship into health. In my years of counseling and coaching I’ve seen both, and have 100% faith that life releases what is not real and transforms the rest.

Untangling involves honoring yourself and your needs, expressing your preferences, and then letting others make their own choices. When we do this, we rise up the mountain quickly and enjoy time with others who are on the same path.